Dearest Beloved Brothers & Sisters,
How much does criticism pay? The answer is it pays zero, and in fact instead of paying anything criticism costs. It cost in lost relationships, lost contracts, lost business, and lost income. Even so called “Corrective Criticism” can be and most of the time is deadly. You see it is human nature and need that we all have this invisible sign we wear around our neck that reads “Please love and Accept Me”. And any form of criticism crushes that need like a bolder on a ant. As humans it is part of our nature and make-up to feel needed, appreciated, valued, and loved. This is natural and healthy. Every successful marriage knows that when a spouse asks “Does this look good on me” there is only one answer in the whole Universe…”You look fantastic!”
As hard as it is to admit, when we ask someone for the “truth” we are not looking for correction or corrective criticism, we are looking and seeking for love, approval and appreciation. Why would we need criticism from our friends, family and loved ones when we live in a world where the masses know how to do only one thing, “Criticize the Hell” out of everything. We are taught to look for the “Gold in Everything” in our GIN levels and we can apply it to our relationships to the degree that we have a choice with everyone; to praise and up lift or criticize and tear down for we will find both opportunities to do so.
One of our GIN books is the classic “How to win friends and influence people”which is a book I have been reading since 1979. Authentic and sincere praise will lead you into the King’s Palace and keep you there. But beware, Bull Manure and Insincere Flattery will eventually get you hung in the gallows of life. When we do a close internal search of criticism we find the problem does not abide in the person or thing we criticize, but the problem is within us. I came to one of the greatest revelations of my life when I awaked to realize “I am the Problem”. For many years I would struggle at the incompetence of people that worked in stores, waiters in restaurants, drivers who cut you off in traffic, and the teenagers who put the wrong order in your bag at the drive thru window.
Suddenly, everything became crystal clear, I began to shout in my car driving down the freeway, “It’s me, I am the one with the problem, not other people”. I was getting upset and angry at people because there were unresolved issues in my life that caused me to be internally irritated all the time. I started telling people, “It’s not you, it’s me!” I no longer had a need to criticize people or their behavior. This did not justify their actions or behaviors or lifestyles, it just simply meant I no longer gave people my personal power. I was free! I mentally told the world, Go ahead and act as you please, it does not bother me, I am happy because I fixed me!
Therefore make it your goal and objective to eliminate criticism from your life, and build a lifestyle of authentic praise; people will buzz around you like a bee around a honeycomb. We want to thank all of you who were on our “Live GIN Call” last night, each week we ask ourselves how in the world are we going to top that one! All of you are so Amazing.
Gintastic Four; Malinda, Jeonghae, Don & Johan..
Signup Today for Sip of GIN
and Receive Free Copy of
13 Audios that is also Called
“Think & Grow Rich” of our Time...